stress much?
There's so much going on right now, I feel the need to write just so I'll be able to sleep tonight. Things are so stressful and it's unknown to me how I'm keeping my head on. But I am, so that's good. Chichi's sick right now, part man-cold part not enough sleep, stress overload "cold". We've all been there, at least I know I have. Where you convince yourself feverish, even though what you have is probably just a common cold. You take your temperature, the thermometer, it doesn't lie, but you're so convinced that you think the thing is broken. Yes, he does have a cough, and stuffed and runny nose. I'm not saying he's not at all sick, but he's stretching it out. Convinced he's feverish, when he's not. Had me get the hotel to call a doctor, thankfully there's a nurse on hand. EMS shows up, take his temp. Normal reading. -_- At least he didn't tell her to retake it. After she'd gone though, he takes out his own thermometer to prove his point, they take temps differently here (under the armpit), he takes his own temp. Normal reading. Takes it again..normal reading. The last reading, he tells me, gives him 37.5C that's fever, he says. Well technically anything over 38 would be considered kind of feverish, like a low fever, according to the interwebs. He's had worse man-colds before, he's fishing for gold right now.
I don't blame him. Everything is taking so long! So much stuff hasn't been done, there are so many uncertainties, the stress levels are through the roof. It's the va et vient (back and forth) of everything. Like drawing up a lease, you don't just sign a lease here. You need to have a letter of intent for renting, have the landlord negotiate the terms with you, then you notarize it, and sign. Thankfully he's got assistance with that through the company he's working with here, as well as the relocation company who's doing all of the legal work. I can't begin to describe how terrifying all of that would have been had we had to do it ourselves. So yes, even though that relocation company was 3 weeks late in contacting us, even if they're not even located in the same city, they're finally helping us. We also have to find our own internet service provider, and even there, we have walls blocking our path. I'm not sure why he wouldn't ask said relocation company to assist us in that, it's still something needed and part of their designated tasks, but no. That's my job. Run around, research, what do we get, who are we going with. Wants me to make decisions when I have no parameters to work with.. SO yea, stressful.
It's like stress never gives us a break!
It got overwhelming when we were still in Montreal. Having to find and coordinate not 1 but 2 movers, we never really finished moving either. Barely made it to our flight on the day we left because we were still in the process of moving. So many things I should have brought with me, but didn't because there was no time, because c'etait le bordel! Everything was all over the place, us included! I love my mouman and am so thankful towards her, for helping us move as much as she could, as well as family and friends who offered support.
I knew there would be more stress once we would arrive here. But he said, no. There would be no stress, all would be good and taken care of. But it's not and it wasn't. Everything is a hodgepodge! And even though he reassured me, and I wanted to believe him, I expected some level of stress. I've been good though, I haven't let it affect me much, a lot less than I would've thought.
We're going in tomorrow to apply for a visa extension, and I'm stressing some more, because common-law isn't recognized here. Well it is, but only between locals. Not for foreigners. So what will happen? What if they refuse my extension? I'm trying not to think of that.
Am I stressed? YES. Over the limit, but somehow, somehow, I'm not having anxiety attacks. Emotional, yes, at times. But not breaking down.
You want to talk stress? I've got stress coming out the wazoo!
You want more stress, we're signing our lease on Friday, this Friday. Knock on wood.
The relocation company will be paying for our lease because we can't open a local bank account since we don't have an alien card.
Our landlord-to-be, won't accept foreign checks and paying with cash would be crazy. There's a $200 limit on daily withdrawls. It would take too long to withdraw enough money for rent, as well as the month advance and security deposit.
Once we obtain our alien card, we'll be able to open a local account, but only a savings account because we're foreigners. But you can't have checks for a savings account.
From what I've read on expat forums, the local employers will usually open a checking account for the employee, to be able to receive payslips, so at that point hopefully that will fix things for us.
But said employer has yet to contact us!! The relocation company was 3 weeks late... the employer is STILL a no-show! If they don't manifest by December 10th, we'll have to wait another month before Chichi gets hired..
Now, since we'll be leaving the hotel to move into our new condo, we need to get internet for the new condo. But you can't open an account if you don't have an alien card, which you can only apply for after having been in the country for over 59days!
Oh that precious alien card! How our lives will be so much easier once we have one!
I went back and spoke with a rep today and there may be a work around in getting an internet contract with them, instead of the alien card, they said a poba could work too, so hopefully things are starting to look up since we'll have a signed, notarized lease come Friday. Oh but did I mention internet speeds are maxed at 15mbps? They show availability for more on their website but when I spoke with them, they came back saying that they only have cables installed in said building that will go up to 15mbps. So even if I were to take one advertised at 50mbps, the actual speed would not go over 15.. if it even goes that high, as many people have told us (local and foreign), that the service often clunks out, never runs at high speeds.
That will be another fish to fry once we get there!
I don't blame him. Everything is taking so long! So much stuff hasn't been done, there are so many uncertainties, the stress levels are through the roof. It's the va et vient (back and forth) of everything. Like drawing up a lease, you don't just sign a lease here. You need to have a letter of intent for renting, have the landlord negotiate the terms with you, then you notarize it, and sign. Thankfully he's got assistance with that through the company he's working with here, as well as the relocation company who's doing all of the legal work. I can't begin to describe how terrifying all of that would have been had we had to do it ourselves. So yes, even though that relocation company was 3 weeks late in contacting us, even if they're not even located in the same city, they're finally helping us. We also have to find our own internet service provider, and even there, we have walls blocking our path. I'm not sure why he wouldn't ask said relocation company to assist us in that, it's still something needed and part of their designated tasks, but no. That's my job. Run around, research, what do we get, who are we going with. Wants me to make decisions when I have no parameters to work with.. SO yea, stressful.
It's like stress never gives us a break!
It got overwhelming when we were still in Montreal. Having to find and coordinate not 1 but 2 movers, we never really finished moving either. Barely made it to our flight on the day we left because we were still in the process of moving. So many things I should have brought with me, but didn't because there was no time, because c'etait le bordel! Everything was all over the place, us included! I love my mouman and am so thankful towards her, for helping us move as much as she could, as well as family and friends who offered support.
I knew there would be more stress once we would arrive here. But he said, no. There would be no stress, all would be good and taken care of. But it's not and it wasn't. Everything is a hodgepodge! And even though he reassured me, and I wanted to believe him, I expected some level of stress. I've been good though, I haven't let it affect me much, a lot less than I would've thought.
We're going in tomorrow to apply for a visa extension, and I'm stressing some more, because common-law isn't recognized here. Well it is, but only between locals. Not for foreigners. So what will happen? What if they refuse my extension? I'm trying not to think of that.
Am I stressed? YES. Over the limit, but somehow, somehow, I'm not having anxiety attacks. Emotional, yes, at times. But not breaking down.
You want to talk stress? I've got stress coming out the wazoo!
You want more stress, we're signing our lease on Friday, this Friday. Knock on wood.
The relocation company will be paying for our lease because we can't open a local bank account since we don't have an alien card.
Our landlord-to-be, won't accept foreign checks and paying with cash would be crazy. There's a $200 limit on daily withdrawls. It would take too long to withdraw enough money for rent, as well as the month advance and security deposit.
Once we obtain our alien card, we'll be able to open a local account, but only a savings account because we're foreigners. But you can't have checks for a savings account.
From what I've read on expat forums, the local employers will usually open a checking account for the employee, to be able to receive payslips, so at that point hopefully that will fix things for us.
But said employer has yet to contact us!! The relocation company was 3 weeks late... the employer is STILL a no-show! If they don't manifest by December 10th, we'll have to wait another month before Chichi gets hired..
Now, since we'll be leaving the hotel to move into our new condo, we need to get internet for the new condo. But you can't open an account if you don't have an alien card, which you can only apply for after having been in the country for over 59days!
Oh that precious alien card! How our lives will be so much easier once we have one!
I went back and spoke with a rep today and there may be a work around in getting an internet contract with them, instead of the alien card, they said a poba could work too, so hopefully things are starting to look up since we'll have a signed, notarized lease come Friday. Oh but did I mention internet speeds are maxed at 15mbps? They show availability for more on their website but when I spoke with them, they came back saying that they only have cables installed in said building that will go up to 15mbps. So even if I were to take one advertised at 50mbps, the actual speed would not go over 15.. if it even goes that high, as many people have told us (local and foreign), that the service often clunks out, never runs at high speeds.
That will be another fish to fry once we get there!
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